Poetic Justice

I’ve learned that suppressing your truth is not keeping the peace. I spent a lot of time saying yes to things I wanted to say no too. In hindsight, I was afraid of the backlash and hated any type of argument.

I thought to myself what was the root of my issue with expressing myself? I always believe there is a reason for how we behave. Whether that be rooted in upbringing or life experiences. Growing up you never realize the patterns you pickup from your parents. My parents rarely argued in front of us, but by my moms silence I could tell when she was upset. Naturally I took on this quality.

My mom would call me her peacemaker. Growing up I always wanted peace and harmony and still do now. I honestly hate conflict and avoid it at all costs. I learned as I got older in friendships and relationships my way of trying to keep the peace was silence. In theory expecting others to know what I’m thinking or feeling without expressing it. I realized without voicing my opinions I would let the hurt build up. Literally keeping a running tally in my head. This was truly unhealthy; honestly to the point that one day I just exploded. I can recall so many situations that could’ve been easily resolved had I just used my voice. Instead I held things in for the sake of having “peace”. One of the hardest things I’ve had to learn as an adult is expressing myself and dealing with conflict.

I’m understanding that disagreements are perfectly okay. I think one of the biggest mistakes me make is that we listen to respond instead of listening to understand. Learning to see life from another’s persons perspective is healthy, and yes you may be wrong. Healthy conversation teaches you respect, builds connections, sparks ideas, helps you grow and can be fun!

Speak your truth even when it’s uncomfortable. You’ll thank yourself later.

Thankful for life lessons and being able to have real conversations with myself.

Outfit Details:

Poetic Justice Art Tunic Top - Heather Grey : Fashion Nova

Bombshell Skinny Jean - Premium Stretch Black : Torrid

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